Don’t Chase ’Em, Replace Them
“Don’t be f*kin’ with nobody who ain’t f*ckin’ with you“ has got to be my favorite Queen Latifah lines because it’s so real, so true. Even though it might’ve been a response to a Roxanne Shanté diss, it can be viewed in a different light. Mainly concerning trying to get the attention of people that aren’t trying to f*ck with you in the first place. As a blogger, I see this a lot in the music industry with artists trying to gain the attention of whoever is poppin’ at the moment. They chase them down, looking thirsty AF, while ignoring their fans and Day 1 supporters.
This concept also applies to real life situations. A lot of times we waste time chasing down people that don’t want to be bothered, while ignoring the ones rooting for us the most. Maybe it’s human nature, in that we want what we can’t have. Or we fall in love with the idea of being in with the in crowd. I don’t know what it is, but it’s a good way to bring yourself a lot of pain. The pain of rejection. The pain of wondering if they’ll ever hit you back. And most importantly, the pain of looking thirsty AF.
We’re in a new year now. Which means, we should’ve left people that didn’t add to our lives in the Twenty 2016 in the Twenty 16. Don’t go running back to people from your past. They’re there for a reason. Don’t hit them up because you’re lonely and they’re the only people you have to f*ck with. Hit them up because you want to be in their company and they want you to be in their’s.
Spend more time with the people that want you to win because they’ve always wanted you to win, even when you were losing. Not the opportunists that want you to win so they can reap the rewards of all of YOUR hard work. Plain and simple, f*ck with people that are trying to f*ck with you. They’ll be your biggest supporters.